Chickenhead clucks de-coded (Things chickenheads say)

By:  A Better Village

One of the easiest ways to spot a chickenhead–a useless female due to the havoc it (purposefully using the pronoun “it” to elaborate upon the fact that chickenheads are sub-human) creates–is by her speech. Chickenheads have language they often use, and to which you have undoubtedly already been exposed on many occasions.


Two of the most common statements (or “complaints”) chickenheads make are enumerated upon below. 


“She don’t speak,” or “She don’t speak to nobody,” or “Did she say anything to you?”  Recall that chickenheads come about as the result of unresolved feelings of neglect and abandonment from their childhoods. Their unresolved post-traumatic stress leads to a sense of entitlement that causes chickenheads to take it very personally when others do not acknowledge their existence by greeting them. 

Chickenheads perceive someone not greeting them as an insult, the same way they felt insulted when their caregivers did not show them the love and affection they needed and wanted during their infant and toddler years. 

Not “speaking” to a chickenhead is also an affront because chickenheads are very social. They have to be in order to get into people’s business and ruin others’ lives. The crux of the chickenhead’s work is thwarted without a word from you! 

Not acknowledging a chickenhead delays their chances of ruining your happiness. They are upset by your ignorance of them, because you make them work harder to get into your personal business when you do not initiate contact with them. They also feel less responsible for ruining your life with personal information they find out about you when you initiate contact with them. 

Yet, too, chickenheads–like most fallen angels (think Lucifer)–just want to be loved, and don’t know how. Chickenheads, like most people who experience neglect and abandonment during their formative years, lack language, which explains their requirement that others speak to them first. Chickenheads do not know how to establish healthy relationships because they do not have experience with this. They do not know how to calmly and politely walk up to someone and introduce themselves, so they sit back and wait for the subject of their desire or jealousy to initiate introduction, and when that does not happen they get offended. 


“She thinks she’s cute.” This is a classic example of the chickenhead’s low self-esteem and usual attempt to project its inferiority complex onto someone else–usually someone that is the subject of their jealousy. Chickenheads don’t have the guts to admit when they are jealous of someone, so they blame their ill feelings on others to make it appear as though the other person is doing something to make them feel bad. Of course, the truth is that chickenheads wake up and go to bed feeling bad. Their ill feelings are just provoked or exacerbated by the thought or appearance of another possibly having a happier existence then their own. 

Chickenhead Clucks Cheat Sheet

When chickenheads say this: 

“She don’t speak,” or “She don’t speak to nobody,” or “Did she say anything to you?”

This is what they’re really saying:

  • “I’m upset because [the person about which the chickenhead is complaining] did not acknowledge my presence.”
  • “[She, the person being complained about] didn’t speak first.”
  • “How am I going to get into her business if she doesn’t speak to me?”
  • “How am I going to make sure [the person I’m complaining about] is miserable like me if she doesn’t speak to me?”
  • “She won’t be my friend.”
  • “I want to be her friend, but I don’t know how to initiate conversation. I’m afraid she won’t like me.” 
  • “I’m afraid that I’m not good enough to be her friend because she seems too confident in herself to want to be friends with someone like me.” 
  • “I’m afraid of being alone.”

When chickenheads say this:

“She thinks she’s cute.”

This is what they’re really saying:

  • “I’m jealous of her.”
  • “I’m too weak to take responsibility for my own inferiority complex.”
  • I don’t have the strength or courage to get rid of my flaws and do what it takes to be as good as [the person I’m complaining about because I’m jealous].” 
  • “I’m unhappy.”
  • “[The person I’m complaining about] seems to have a better life than me.”
  • “She’s prettier than me.” 
  • “I feel inferior.”
  • “I’m afraid of being alone.”
  • “You’re gonna like her more than you like me, then I won’t have anybody to love me and I’ll be alone forever.”

You get the picture. Remember:  Chickenheads are liars; they speak in opposites. The truth of their own inferiority is too hard for them to bare, so they project their inferiority  onto others in the hopes of sharing their pain with others. Chickenheads think that the way to lessen the burden of their inferiority is to make others feel the pain and misery they do. This is why they gossip, spread rumors and engage in conduct that is hurtful. They don’t know how to ask for help. 

Connection to Slavery

 

Chickenheads were created during the Enslavement Process. The Enslavement Process was effective because enslaved Blacks (taken from the continent of Africa, “seasoned” and enslaved in the Caribbean/South America and North America) were not allowed to have relationships with one another. Parents were not allowed to coddle their children. Coddling helps develop relationships and love, and love leads to the protection of loved ones. The protection of loved ones leads to revolt, and revolt would have led to the end of the profitable Enslavement Process. There are even stories of enslaved mothers and fathers shoeing their kids away from them in the presence of slave masters because they didn’t want the slave masters to see them showing affection, because showing affection could lead to a child or loved one being sold away. Oh, the power of love. 

So:  We ended up with generations of families that learned to neglect and abandon their children. Now today, many parents and families still do not know how to love their children or relate to each other. We continue to “hate” each other when we don’t have to, because we’re perpetuating a mode of survival that is no longer necessary. We don’t have to compete with each other anymore for a slave master’s attention! We can initiate contact with each other and show authentic affection to each other without being worried about being sold away! And just because someone does not show you the affection you want or need does not mean that they hate you! 

Examine your reasons for being upset by someone’s behavior. Then figure out if the response you want is that which you are entitled to or that which you want for another reason. #KnowingIsHalfTheBattle

#HappyJuneteenth

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